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March 23, 2006 10:28 AM- what defines me

A few comments ago, Dacia asked, "what is a wabi-sabi life?" (Please note as Amber did, that I am not referring to a "wasabi" life?holy hell! I don?t think my nostrils would survive such a daily cleansing).

As with any philosophy, it is open to interpretation. For me, wabi-sabi is a Japanese phrase that means appreciating the ephemeral nature of life. In particular, it is a celebration of things that are imperfect and unconventional It also embraces the spirit of "shaker-style" living (which obviously isn?t the way they express it in Japanese but is my interpretation of the concept of a clean, simple, yet artful aesthetic).

I love hand made things which is to say, I love things that are a bit fucked-up. In our house, we hung doors that we got from a salvage yard. The idea being it would give our interior an older, farmhouse look. My husband, scrapes the paint off of each one, sands it and then primes it and then paints it?when I let him. There are a few that were hung first and have layers and layers of old greenish paint chipping off and I won?t let him touch them. I love them just like that. This of course makes him a bit crazy because he likes things done properly, but he indulges me, for now.

More to the point, wabi-sabi living ala miss bunnypants is dropping out of the race?allowing others to compete and achieve. I?ve had far too much of the competitive, achieving energy in my life. I release it all. In its place I want loose, uninhibited creativity (replete with wild-ass errors and glaring mistakes and big old flaws), dreamy mornings, languorous afternoons, and starry nights.

As a little kid, before we left Boston (actually we lived in Newton for all you beantown readers) one of the guys who taught with my dad at MIT was Japanese. He and his family lived up the street and I remember spending hours with them as they showed me how to make origami animals which I loved.

As a teenager, I adored an old 1950s movie called Sayonara* where I engraved this quote on my heart, ?the pleasure lies not in the end, but in the pleasurable steps to that end.?

As a twenty-something, Isamu Noguchi was a huge inspiration (and will forever be).

All of this is to say?I have no idea why I am drawn to this particular Japanese philosophy and aesthetic. But I have always been. And finally, for the first time, feel that I am truly living it.

However, in the event my definition doesn't cut the mustard-- here's what Wikipedia says.

*This is not a recommendation to you---I?m sure if I were to view it now all kinds of awful stereotypes would jump out at me?but at that time, I loved it so.

got 2 cents?



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teahouseblossom says:
Hmm..that is a really interesting concept. I like the part about how it invokes spiritual longing.
posted on: March 23

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sarai says:
"dreamy mornings, languorous afternoons, and starry nights." i love this *sigh* exactly what i'm searching for. a beautiful post that perfectly sums up the wabi-sabi lifestyle.
posted on: March 23

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wee says:
wonky, unconventional, imperfect, a bit fucked up... oh my. You're describing me right down to my hinges. I'm so wabi-sabi it hurts! wild, woolly Wabi-sabi wee.
posted on: March 23

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la vie en rose says:
i first heard the term wabi-sabi from amy krouse rosenthal in her book encyclopedia of an ordinary life. i was intrigued at the time by the idea and now you have put it out there for me again...to think about and ponder more...
posted on: March 23

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lizardek says:
I have to confess I had never heard the term before, but it couldn't be more perfect for you now that I know the meaning!
posted on: March 23

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Andrea says:
What a lovely and inspiring post! You put into words what I?m longing to achieve right now... I also hadn?t heard the term before but I?m so glad you shared it with us. Thanks, it was just what I needed today!
posted on: March 23

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Kari says:
We?ve used the term in our house since reading an article in the Utne Reader which gave a definition that went something like this: being happy and sad ? both for no reason at all, at the same time. Like seeing happy old people playing chess in the park. That makes me feel wabi-sabi, or looking at old vacation photos. I like your definition too.
posted on: March 23

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pomme says:
I totally relate to your love of peeling paint/surface textures Handmade things are flawed but their unique flaws are what makes them perfect. Hadn't heard about Wabi Sabi before, thanks for the introduction.
posted on: March 23

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Erica says:
I find the idea of wabi-sabi very alluring, and some time ago checked out a book on the topic from our library. Then I promptly lost the book in the clutter, and by the time it reappeared again had accumulated an enormous fine and had to be returned unread. Something tells me I have a ways to go... And I love today's banner!
posted on: March 23

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stephanie says:
"liberation from a material world and transcendence to a simpler life" sounds good to me, where do I sign up? BP you are making me feel like it's possible.
posted on: March 24

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Sheryl says:
Very interesting and inspiring.
posted on: March 24

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T says:
Hey what's up with that banner you sneaky, sneaky but very pretty woman....
posted on: March 24

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bp says:
hey, you're the one who gave me my magic powers . . . you sex machine.
posted on: March 24

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bad penguin says:
I love your interpretation of wabi-sabi life. Celebrating the imperfect and the unconventional sounds just right to me. Particularly if it leads to dreamy mornings, langorous afternoons and starry nights. What more could you want out of life?
posted on: March 24

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lottie says:
I was having eerily similar daydreams today and now I can assign them a name... I'm very intrigued by wabi-sabi as an aesthetic - lovely post!
posted on: March 24

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impossiblejane says:
Love the new header!
posted on: March 24

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samantha says:
You are just crazy with the new banners and I love it! Love the Soliden banner. And here I was thinking, wow, she really loves wasabi - but now I'm introduced to a whole new term and idea and think it's fascinating. Plus, it's really fun to SAY!
posted on: March 24

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lizardek says:
You are so cute with the mad banner skillz!
posted on: March 24

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Rebekah says:
I love reading EVERYTHING you write - you now I do - but this is the best, and wonderful beyond words! I almost passed right over the Wikipedia definition, but thank goodness I didn't; I would have missed: if an object or expression can bring about, within us, a sense of serene melancholy and a spiritual longing, then that object could be said to be wabi sabi." Richard R. Powell summarizes by saying "It (wabi-sabi) nurtures all that is authentic by acknowledging three simple realities: nothing lasts, nothing is finished, and nothing is perfect." This is exactly, precisely how I want to live. You've said it SO eloquently: I want loose, uninhibited creativity (replete with wild-ass errors and glaring mistakes and big old flaws), dreamy mornings, languorous afternoons, and starry nights. Can you come right over? I'll show you my "early rust" prized possessions, my cherished "broken things." Not everyone appreciates them, so I madly cleave to anyone who does. (I toured a Shaker community in Pennsylvania once and kept thinking that their philosophies were so akin to Japanese, and their aesthetics so compatible.)
posted on: March 24

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kat says:
hehe, newton is two blocks away from my apartment. there are so many beautiful japanese words. i wish i could remember the word i read in "expecting adam" by martha beck which describes a japanese word that means seeing the beauty in something while at the same time feeling sadness.
posted on: March 24

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violetismycolor says:
Wabi-sabi...green horseradishy 'wake up and smell the horseradish' kind of feelings...that's the first thing I thought of...of course, wasabi could jolt the spiritual life right into you.
posted on: March 24

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Lynn says:
I was going to say exactly what Sarai said. Oh well. Got here too late.
posted on: March 25

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jes says:
This was just perfect! For years I lived what I could have easily defined as a Wabi-Sabi life...but lately, I just don't know. Your post has got me thinking..... PS...thanks for Isamu Noguchi link. xoxox
posted on: March 25

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Donna says:
The best description I have found of wabi-sabi is like a bowl that has cracked but is glued back together with the cracks painted in gold - you celebrate the imperfections that make something real and give it character. It is the antidote to the American lifestyle of having to have the newest, latest and greatest and throwing out something that is usable but flawed in some way. Like getting a new car every couple of years even though the old one is still in perfect working order but the paint is scratched - the wabi sabi person would keep the flawed one and perhaps even embelish the flaws in some way.
posted on: March 25

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Margaret says:
I love Wasabi! But that isn't what you're actually talking about--so I will restrain myself. I can certainly see why this is an attractive philosophy. I am a bit too much of a perfectionist to be able to totally live my life according to it though. Je suis qui je suis. Je l'accepte.
posted on: March 25

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christina says:
Ahh, according to your definition, wabisabi fits my inner inklings as well... off kilter, whimsical, haphazard... these things make great soil for the creative. And the doors sound divine.
posted on: March 25

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steph says:
I guess I live a wabisabi life, too. Now I have a name for it! I promise to give you credit ;) And I'm digging the banner! I'm visualizing it on stationery, for some reason...love it!
posted on: March 31

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